Baby Come Back

As TW Jackson explains in the Magic Of Making Up System after your initial contact…you want to set up your “1st Date” again.

AND…the MOST important part, the secret and the part nobody else but T Dub will tell ya …is the date HAS to be EMOTIONALLY CHARGED.

Okay?

That DOES NOT mean ‘dinner and a movie’.

because…well…it’s BORING…and does not create a bonding…or in our case a RE-bonding experience.

In fact, you want to pack in several emotionally charged mini-dates in a span of a couple hours.

Why?

If you just do ‘dinner and a movie’ you lose out on a Sociologically PROVEN principle…

emotionally charged experiences = bond

Look at it in another way.

Last time you went to the bank, do you remember the person in line in front of you?

Behind you?

Probably not. Me either.

But…

What if while you were in the bank, it was ROBBED AT GUNPOINT?

and the robbers couldn’t get the safe open. The robbers are livid, screaming and waving huge guns around. The tension feels so thick you could cut through it with a knife.

You are lying face down on the cold bank floor and can see your breath fogging up the tile below.

You are trembling…because it is eerily silent for a moment.

“Oh my God!”

“Where are the robbers?”

“Are they behind me?”

“Are they watching me?”

So you slowly move your eyes around and see a sweet older lady lying right next to you.

She looks a little like Grandma, and you come out of your own haze enough to realize that she is even more terrified than you. She is softly sobbing.

You slowly reach out and take her hand in yours and give her a little squeeze that says…”it’s gonna be all right.”

NOW!

Let me ask?

Are you going to EVER forget that older lady?

and…

Do you think she will EVER forget you?

Not in a million Sundays!

Now…I’m not saying to go rob a bank on your first date! LOL.

But you want to go on an EMOTIONALLY charged and exciting date…and preferably several mini-dates in a span of a couple hours.

A short roller coaster ride is one GREAT example.

T Dub teaches you more about things like emotionally charged dates in the Magic Of Making Up System.

You’ll also discover psychological tactics and techniques you can use to get you BACK on that first date with your ex again.

Do you want to get ex girlfriend back? In three quarters of break ups, women are the ones who call it quits. As you are probably aware by this time in your life, women are irrational creatures. They don’t always say or do what is in their best interest. Often, within days of a break up, a woman is ready to get back together. But, she’s embarrassed that she made a scene and won’t tell you that she’d like to reconcile. Unless you make a move, you are at a stalemate with the situation being that you are broken up. So, it is up to you to get ex girlfriend back.

To get ex girlfriend back, you have to pursue a two pronged approach. The first thing you have to do is show her that you are desirable. The second thing is to show her you are available and you want her back.

If there was a core reason for the break up, you need to address that. For instance, when Scott and Rachel first started going out, he took her to plays and concerts because she really enjoyed the arts. As they got more settled in their relationship, dates increasingly revolved around his passion for sports. In fact, after Rachel called the relationship off, Scott realized that they hadn’t done an arts event in nearly four months.

Scott realized that in order to get ex girlfriend back, he had to show her the fun parts that she had been missing from the relationship.

Scott didn’t bombard Rachel with calls and text messages immediately. He gave her her space. But a couple weeks after the break up, he casually mentioned that he had two tickets to the symphony and asked whether she would like to go “just as friends.”

Of course, Rachel jumped at the chance to do something she liked with the man she was still in love with. Scott and Rachel went to the concert and then he took her to a romantic restaurant where he bought the best bottle of wine on the menu. Rachel was blown away by the “new” Scott and started hinting that she wouldn’t mind restarting the relationship.

At this point, the ball was in Scott’s court. He now had the upper hand to define how they were going to get back together. Get ex girlfriend back meant getting her on his terms.

He told Rachel that he had enjoyed the evening and he looked forward to more just like it. But he also enjoyed sports and hoped that if they got back together she would be willing to learn more about offside and fouls.

Because she was in a great mood, she agreed. The new terms for going forward with the relationship had been set and everyone was happy.

Remember, Rachel broke up with Scott in a fit of pique. But she didn’t really want to end the relationship. Scott handled everything just right in realizing what was lacking, fixing it, and then proceeding under a new set of rules.

And, that is how Scott went about get ex girlfriend back.

If you’ve written a heartbroken poem because you’re separated from your loved one, it could be something that can bring you back together. Writing poetry is a good way to deal with a break up. And if you write a really touching heartbroken poem, you might impress your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend with how much you really care.

You probably shouldn’t write the poem the moment you break up and within an hour rush it over to them to read. A heartbroken poem, to be genuine, is something that will probably take at least a little time to write.

You aren’t going to want to just jot down anything that comes to your mind and start reading it out loud to your ex. Something like that will feel false and forced. You want this to be genuine if it’s going to help you get back together.

You don’t have to be a great poet to write a heartfelt poem that can move your ex and make them see things in a different light. So if you’ve never written a poem before in your life, don’t worry.

It’s not that hard to write a heartbroken poem once you decide to do it and you get started. The hardest part is getting started, though, so you have to make yourself do that. Then it will probably start to flow more naturally.

First, just think about how you feel. Of course you’ll feel things like sadness or hurt. But if you can compare that to something else rather than just say you’re sad or hurt, it makes a more powerful poem. Likening a flooding rain to all the tears you’ve cried is better than just saying “I’ve cried a lot.”

Comparing tears to rain is a little cliché, but it gives you the general idea of how you should use metaphors to make the writing better and more meaningful. In the poem, tell your ex what’s different about your life without them, and how you’d like to have them back. You can list the reasons, as long as they’re valid ones that your ex might want to hear.

If you’ve not written much or any poetry, then don’t worry about rhyming. Modern poetry rarely rhymes unless it’s for comic effect. Just write kind of like you speak, but with metaphor and words that bring up a mental picture as you read.

You can also be very honest in the poem in a way that might make you uncomfortable in a conversation. Especially if you won’t be there when your ex reads the poem, it’s easier to say things you might worry about saying in person, because there can’t be an immediate rejection. So say what you want to say.

It might not be easy to write something like that to give to your ex. You might worry that they’ll think it’s silly. But you’ll always know that you tried. Even if your heartbroken poem doesn’t change anything, at least you fought for what you wanted.

To get back with ex after you’ve made mistakes, means you’re no doubt going to have to face some hard home truths! As sure as eggs is eggs making mistakes in relationships means you have to fix them and apologize for those mistakes before there can be any making up.

When you decide you want to get back with ex, you must be ready to face not only what has gone wrong with the relationship, but also your part in the break down of the relationship. If you made mistakes then don’t beat yourself up for that. We all make them, it’s what you do after the mistake that’s important.

So sit down on your own and take some time to go through what happened and what were the issues that led up to what happened. Don’t concern yourself too much with what you see as your ex’s mistakes, leave that for the future. Only concern yourself right now with what you can influence.

Whatever mistakes you find in your past behavior, can they be forgiven? Don’t be too eager to get down on yourself and believe that your mistakes are basically unforgivable. You would be surprised at the situations that couples find themselves in and that they later recover from. So don’t think that your mistakes are beyond forgiveness. There is always hope!

Try and pin point what was happening in your life at the time that led you to make the mistakes, especially if it was completely out of character for you. Remember what I said about facing hard truths, if you want to get back with ex, then you need to do this.

You might discover that you were under certain stresses and strains. Perhaps you were under threat at your job? Or you weren’t physically feeling yourself? Or perhaps there were other family issues. Whatever you find when you look back at what happened, you will eventually need to sit down with your ex and explain in detail just what you have found.

If your mistakes were the result of you just being thoughtless or selfish, then this is something about you and your character that can quite easily be fixed. It will take ongoing monitoring but if you are sincerely committed to get back with ex, then it is going to be worthwhile.

When you have come to the point where you have begun to gain perspective about your mistakes, then call your ex and arrange to meet. It is usually better to arrange a face to face meeting somewhere public and neutral because then there is less chance of either of you becoming emotional.

So, make sure that you stay calm and focused on what you want to say. Apologize and ask for forgiveness and then listen carefully to what your ex has to say.

First off, let’s start by saying, you saying “I want my wife back” is a good thing. There is nothing to be ashamed of, and no reason to think you are the only one in this world in your predicament. Over half the marriages around the world end up in divorce. So remember you are not alone, if you decide you still love your wife and you want her back; go for it.

If you want your wife back, then admitting that is the first step of possibly having her back in your arms. O.K. , now that you have admitted that; lets reflect on what is the reason you are without your wife now. If you were the reason why you don’t have your wife to begin with; then you have to admit that. As hard as it might be to say that it’s your fault, you have to do it. If you had an affair, you need to say that, if you took her for granted when she was nothing but good to you, then you need to say it.

The point is, what you need to do, no matter what it was you did; tell the truth. If your wife is not with you, than more than likely you need to change. By you admitting your faults and telling the truth, this means you are one step closer to getting her back. This is one way of letting her know that you are really trying to change.

The second thing that needs to be corrected is the communication between you and your wife. Chances are, there wasn’t any communication at all, and this is one of the biggest downfalls in a relationship. To many times people go without saying what is really on their mind; rather they are scared to say it or thought it would not matter.

Things that you and wife were scared to say or thought it would not matter; those things start to add up. Before you know it, little things that are not said turn into big things; then the talking stops all together. Chances are, your wife knows this, and by you acknowledging this is a problem, you are taking a step in the right direction.

Also remember, you both are going to have opinions and hers may be different. It is ok to have different opinions. Respect her opinion, and remember she is an individual just like you are. These small changes can help you get your wife back. Now that your inspired, and are screaming “I want my wife back” to anyone that will listen, don’t forget to tell her.

Well, does my ex still love me? Hmmm, let’s think about that one for a minute. Ok! I’m done. Does it matter if your ex still loves you or not? I guess it could if you still had feelings for your ex. However, if she or he does still love you; then why are they your ex? Have you thought about that one yet?

Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with wondering if someone still has feelings for you. Matter of fact, it is perfectly natural to wonder these things about a flame you once had. Heck, I have sat back and remembered 25 years ago in high school about a girl I dated, from our freshman year till our senior year, and wondered if she still had old feelings about me.

There is nothing wrong with thinking about the past every now and again. Just wondering… But then you come to the reality of it, and realize, “Hey, they are my ex for a reason”. However, if curiosity gets the best of you, go ahead and give it a shot. You will never know what will happen unless you do.

However, if you are willing to find out if that ex still has feelings for you; be ready for anything. Common sense will tell you anything can happen when you open up that door, my friend. And one of those things, which can happen, is you find both of you still have feelings for each other. You may be thinking “Wow! This is awesome?” Whoa! Hold on cowboy. What about your present life.

Are you in a relationship now? If so, is it worth opening up Pandora’s Box? Ask yourself: “Is your current relationship worth risking?” Once you open that door, then you may end up getting bitten twice. You take that chance, just to find out if your ex still loves you or not.

Ask yourself: “Is she or he worth the risk?” Are you prepared for the answer? Are you prepared for the possibility of your current partner finding out? After all, it may be a life altering experience. If it doesn’t go the way you had hoped; you just may have two people who don’t love you.

This is when you need to have a heart to heart with yourself. Is it really worth bringing up something that is supposed to be behind you? That person is your ex, and they are your ex for a reason. Whether, you broke it off or the other person did. The main point is you’re not together anymore; there is a reason for that.

So, when you are wondering does my ex still love me? Leave it at that, and just wonder. More than likely, if you try to find out, you will eventually find out again just why that person is your ex.

You say you do; however, do you really want to get your lover back? Well let me let you in on a secret. Sometimes getting a lover back can be as bad as getting a case of the gout back. The point is your lover is not with you for a reason, and getting that person in your life again may not be in the best interest for either of you.

Now you have to ask yourself ; what are the real reasons why you want your lover back. Do you really miss that person? Do you feel like you cannot go on in life without that person? Or is that you feel so lonely you would have anyone right now including your ex. The reason for that is because that person is convenient and it seems simpler than having to meet someone new.

Don’t feel bad, you are not the first person to feel like this. Matter of fact it’s completely natural for you to feel this way. Chances are, one person in each relationship that doesn’t make it feels this way. So it’s important for you to understand that and it’s ok; for you to feel this way.

Now if you want your lover back right now, you have been thinking of the good times. That is perfectly natural; however, think of the stuff that got under your skin. You know, all those times he left the seat up on the toilet, and you fell in afterwards. Or the times she could have cared less that you are sick, you have to take the trash out.

Now you have to weigh the good with the bad. Remember, the relationship did end, and you both agreed to go your separate ways. The reasons you guys broke up is because there was more bad than good. What makes you think things will be different? Do you think all the bad things are going to disappear? Do you think all the things that have been said are going to be forgotten?

Only you and your ex know what you have been through. The question now is do you want to go through this again? Do you really want to get your lover back? Perhaps, you do and then again you may not, when you really think it through. However if you decide you do, be sure and learn how to do it the right way.

If you’ve been dumped and you’re looking for ways to get ex back then I have to say that kicking and screaming, begging and pleading is not the best of ways to get ex back.  Instead you need to make sure you closely follow what I’m about to lay out for you.

Always one of the ways to get ex back involves appearing to be in control of yourself and not acting like a desperate and needy out of control victim. So, if you’ve been accused of being needy, then now is your chance to show them that you’re far from that.

It might be too late, but if it isn’t and your ex is simply talking about leaving, then as soon as they mention that they’re leaving, make sure you agree the breakup.  Sounds like the opposite to what you want, but if you let them go and you do it calmly and without drama, then your path to getting them back is going to be a lot smoother.
Once they’re gone, you’re going to have to do what the experts call ‘No Contact!’ That means just what it says.  The best ways to get ex back is always to make sure you’re not bombarding them with text messages and calls.  If your ex has heard nothing from you since they walked out, then it doesn’t make them forget you, it makes them miss and wonder what you’re up to.

Getting on with your life after they have gone is a crucial method to use when you’re trying to figure ways to get ex back.  Not only is this a good way to keep yourself busy, but it is also a great way to put things into perspective.  Nothing will help you with your judgment and confidence more than being in a social situation and having some fun with others, so get on with your life.

After you have given yourself some time to think and adjust, guess what, your ex has had the same amount of time to calm down and reassess their decision too.  You should have been out of contact with your ex for at least a month before you decide the time is right to make contact with them.

Phone them up and have a very short and casual conversation with them.  Ask for a meeting somewhere neutral, but don’t make it sound like a big heavy deal. Remember you are trying to find ways to get ex back, so no emotional manipulation.

At the meeting explain you’ve had time to think and you would like to apologize for any mistakes you’ve made.  Tell your ex your feelings for them haven’t changed and you would like another chance.  Always give your ex space to say what they think and how they feel, and listen carefully and sincerely to what they have to say.

Once you’ve said your peace, tell your ex that you’re going to give them time to think things through and then leave.