Baby Come Back

As TW Jackson explains in the Magic Of Making Up System after your initial contact…you want to set up your “1st Date” again.

AND…the MOST important part, the secret and the part nobody else but T Dub will tell ya …is the date HAS to be EMOTIONALLY CHARGED.

Okay?

That DOES NOT mean ‘dinner and a movie’.

because…well…it’s BORING…and does not create a bonding…or in our case a RE-bonding experience.

In fact, you want to pack in several emotionally charged mini-dates in a span of a couple hours.

Why?

If you just do ‘dinner and a movie’ you lose out on a Sociologically PROVEN principle…

emotionally charged experiences = bond

Look at it in another way.

Last time you went to the bank, do you remember the person in line in front of you?

Behind you?

Probably not. Me either.

But…

What if while you were in the bank, it was ROBBED AT GUNPOINT?

and the robbers couldn’t get the safe open. The robbers are livid, screaming and waving huge guns around. The tension feels so thick you could cut through it with a knife.

You are lying face down on the cold bank floor and can see your breath fogging up the tile below.

You are trembling…because it is eerily silent for a moment.

“Oh my God!”

“Where are the robbers?”

“Are they behind me?”

“Are they watching me?”

So you slowly move your eyes around and see a sweet older lady lying right next to you.

She looks a little like Grandma, and you come out of your own haze enough to realize that she is even more terrified than you. She is softly sobbing.

You slowly reach out and take her hand in yours and give her a little squeeze that says…”it’s gonna be all right.”

NOW!

Let me ask?

Are you going to EVER forget that older lady?

and…

Do you think she will EVER forget you?

Not in a million Sundays!

Now…I’m not saying to go rob a bank on your first date! LOL.

But you want to go on an EMOTIONALLY charged and exciting date…and preferably several mini-dates in a span of a couple hours.

A short roller coaster ride is one GREAT example.

T Dub teaches you more about things like emotionally charged dates in the Magic Of Making Up System.

You’ll also discover psychological tactics and techniques you can use to get you BACK on that first date with your ex again.

Do you want to get ex girlfriend back? In three quarters of break ups, women are the ones who call it quits. As you are probably aware by this time in your life, women are irrational creatures. They don’t always say or do what is in their best interest. Often, within days of a break up, a woman is ready to get back together. But, she’s embarrassed that she made a scene and won’t tell you that she’d like to reconcile. Unless you make a move, you are at a stalemate with the situation being that you are broken up. So, it is up to you to get ex girlfriend back.

To get ex girlfriend back, you have to pursue a two pronged approach. The first thing you have to do is show her that you are desirable. The second thing is to show her you are available and you want her back.

If there was a core reason for the break up, you need to address that. For instance, when Scott and Rachel first started going out, he took her to plays and concerts because she really enjoyed the arts. As they got more settled in their relationship, dates increasingly revolved around his passion for sports. In fact, after Rachel called the relationship off, Scott realized that they hadn’t done an arts event in nearly four months.

Scott realized that in order to get ex girlfriend back, he had to show her the fun parts that she had been missing from the relationship.

Scott didn’t bombard Rachel with calls and text messages immediately. He gave her her space. But a couple weeks after the break up, he casually mentioned that he had two tickets to the symphony and asked whether she would like to go “just as friends.”

Of course, Rachel jumped at the chance to do something she liked with the man she was still in love with. Scott and Rachel went to the concert and then he took her to a romantic restaurant where he bought the best bottle of wine on the menu. Rachel was blown away by the “new” Scott and started hinting that she wouldn’t mind restarting the relationship.

At this point, the ball was in Scott’s court. He now had the upper hand to define how they were going to get back together. Get ex girlfriend back meant getting her on his terms.

He told Rachel that he had enjoyed the evening and he looked forward to more just like it. But he also enjoyed sports and hoped that if they got back together she would be willing to learn more about offside and fouls.

Because she was in a great mood, she agreed. The new terms for going forward with the relationship had been set and everyone was happy.

Remember, Rachel broke up with Scott in a fit of pique. But she didn’t really want to end the relationship. Scott handled everything just right in realizing what was lacking, fixing it, and then proceeding under a new set of rules.

And, that is how Scott went about get ex girlfriend back.

It’s a classic and tragic story. Boy meets girl, boy loses girl, boy just wants girl back. It’s so common that you could place an ad in the local paper: “ex girlfriend wanting to get back, please help.”

Even though it happens everyday that doesn’t make it any easier when it’s you that’s going through it. It is still painful and it still sucks.

You don’t need to give up though. There are a few things you can do that will make things easier, make you a better man and maybe help you get your ex girlfriend back too.

1) The first thing you want to do is cease and desist all calls, texts, emails, etc. It will be one of the hardest things you’ve ever done but you have to stop chasing her. Think about it for a minute. When someone is chased what do they do? That’s right, they run. You don’t want to push her further away from you. Back off and give her some space.

Remember, no one likes a weak, whiny, insecure person. That’s just not a turn on. Your ex is no different. Don’t cling or you will only push her further away.

2) Have fun. I know that this sounds like ridiculous advice, but it’s imporatant. It kind of relates to step 1. Go out with friends and try to live everyday to the fullest. If you can do this you will benefit in a couple of ways.

For one thing she will hear about all the fun you’re having and she will start to miss the fun the two of you used to have. She will also remember why she fell in love with you in the first place.

It will also help you to keep your mind off of your ex for a little while. That is a good way to keep from going crazy during this difficult time.

A word of caution though: don’t use this step as a pathetic and childish attempt to make her jealous. That is very immature and doesn’t work. If you really care about your ex and you want her back you should avoid stupid, destructive and childish games. No good relationship can ever be built on those traits.

3) Try to communicate with her. Don’t argue, or badger. Just talk…and listen. This isn’t about being right, it’s about trying to truly understand where the other person is coming from. This is a time to put your ego on hold.

If you feel like you should place an ad in your local paper that says: “ex girlfriend wanting to get back” than you are pretty serious about getting your ex back. Follow the simple tips I’ve listed here and you have a much better shot at making that happen. And you can save the money on the ad!

Are you thinking ‘I miss my ex’ after a painful relationship break up? If this sounds like you, then you’re not alone. Missing your ex is a normal part of the grieving process after any break up, but some women’s longing to see their ex one more time goes much deeper than simply missing the companionship.

In these cases, women can feel as though they have missed out on their chance at true love. If this sounds like you and you find yourself saying ‘I miss my ex’ then there may be some things you can do to win back your relationship.

Even if you think you’ve tried everything you can to get your ex back, perhaps you need to reconsider your tactics, as some of the things you might be doing could potentially be pushing him even further away. Some things women try in order to get their ex to realize how much they miss him can often make him run the other way instead of coming back to you.

These things can include calling him and telling him you miss him and you love him in an upset, miserable tone of voice. To a man, this sounds like desperation from a very unhappy person. Men like to spend time with people who make them feel good. This means they’ll look for women who are happy and confident because they make him feel as though he’s capable of making them happy.

If you’ve ever called your ex and cried about how upset you are now he’s gone, then you might have pushed him even further away. Don’t worry, though. It is possible to fix this kind of mistake by simply not contacting him for a few days to give him plenty of time to miss you. After all, if you’re texting or emailing or calling him all the time, when has he had a chance to miss you yet?

While you’re spending some time away from him, you need to spend some time working on building up your own self-confidence. Give yourself a mini makeover. When women look good, they feel good too. Spend some time doing things that make you feel good. Go out with some girlfriends and do some fun things together.

Building your own self-confidence will help to stop you thinking about the negative, upsetting aspects of telling yourself over and over ‘I miss my ex’. Instead of this, begin thinking about positive things you can do to become the happy, confident woman that your ex fell in love with in the first place.

After all, when you can put yourself back into a positive frame of mind, you’ll be ready to give him a call and suggest you both catch up for a friendly coffee and a chat. This will give you a chance to let him spend some time with the happy, confident version of you that he once loved and was attracted to. If you feel your emotions coming to the surface and you feel like you want to beg or plead with him or if you feel like you’re going to cry, remember that the unhappy you is the one he pulled away from and broke up with.

So if you’re thinking ‘I miss my ex’, take heart. There is still hope you can work on ways to get your ex back.

If you’ve written a heartbroken poem because you’re separated from your loved one, it could be something that can bring you back together. Writing poetry is a good way to deal with a break up. And if you write a really touching heartbroken poem, you might impress your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend with how much you really care.

You probably shouldn’t write the poem the moment you break up and within an hour rush it over to them to read. A heartbroken poem, to be genuine, is something that will probably take at least a little time to write.

You aren’t going to want to just jot down anything that comes to your mind and start reading it out loud to your ex. Something like that will feel false and forced. You want this to be genuine if it’s going to help you get back together.

You don’t have to be a great poet to write a heartfelt poem that can move your ex and make them see things in a different light. So if you’ve never written a poem before in your life, don’t worry.

It’s not that hard to write a heartbroken poem once you decide to do it and you get started. The hardest part is getting started, though, so you have to make yourself do that. Then it will probably start to flow more naturally.

First, just think about how you feel. Of course you’ll feel things like sadness or hurt. But if you can compare that to something else rather than just say you’re sad or hurt, it makes a more powerful poem. Likening a flooding rain to all the tears you’ve cried is better than just saying “I’ve cried a lot.”

Comparing tears to rain is a little cliché, but it gives you the general idea of how you should use metaphors to make the writing better and more meaningful. In the poem, tell your ex what’s different about your life without them, and how you’d like to have them back. You can list the reasons, as long as they’re valid ones that your ex might want to hear.

If you’ve not written much or any poetry, then don’t worry about rhyming. Modern poetry rarely rhymes unless it’s for comic effect. Just write kind of like you speak, but with metaphor and words that bring up a mental picture as you read.

You can also be very honest in the poem in a way that might make you uncomfortable in a conversation. Especially if you won’t be there when your ex reads the poem, it’s easier to say things you might worry about saying in person, because there can’t be an immediate rejection. So say what you want to say.

It might not be easy to write something like that to give to your ex. You might worry that they’ll think it’s silly. But you’ll always know that you tried. Even if your heartbroken poem doesn’t change anything, at least you fought for what you wanted.